Ask Me His Name: Learning to live and laugh again after the loss of my baby

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Would highly recommend anyone to read this book, not only for the emotional reconnection to reality, but also the fact it’s such a beautifully written story in memory of someone so dear. This is a very good book for both those who have lost a baby and for those who care about someone who has.

I could hear the builder on the roof shouting at the other guy, and I could hear all this, and part of me was really angry, thinking ‘Nobody’s got a clue what’s just happened to us! This was clearly a labour of love, and no doubt writing it has been part of the therapeutic recovery process for the author. I read as a friend and also a nurse to peer into this world to better understand a situation not my own, to be more insightful and equipped to care for a loved friend in this painful landscape. I think when I first started writing, I was quite hesitant about starting a blog, because I kind of knew what I wanted to say, but I was fed up of stumbling across baby loss blogs where the only reason you would be there was if it had already happened to you as an individual. A quick read of Elle’s bio, and a link to a JustGiving page, told me all about her son Teddy, who sadly passed away at just three days old.

There are also some very sweeping statements about how society ‘should’ respond to baby loss vs how society does - and in some cases I agree wholeheartedly but in others I’d say the exact opposite.

This book is not a 'take these steps and you will be 100% fine' type of read, it is an honest account from a mother who has pure love for her son and wants to provide other people (not just mums) with a little helping hand. And it just blows my mind that people were that archaic about it, that they didn’t know to even say anything.And I think it was about six months later, just after Teddy’s first birthday, I had an Instagram message from a girl saying she was a literary agent. I was recently talking to a lady who had lost her son as a child and I said ‘please may I ask his name?